Where are you now? (Olde to my city)

Home of the Michelin tire on 94
Home of the gateways to Canada
Home of America’s vehicles
Home of where dreams are made
But wait those are no longer
What ever happened to life inside of Belle Isle
What ever happened to the pride people had of being from the “D”
What ever happened to the dreams people made
What ever happened to the roses that grew from concrete
Now all you have are tales of horror
Tales of what USED TO BE
Tales of survivals of the fittest
Images of brothers and sisters killing their fellow brothers and sisters for a dollar and their dream
Images of the crooked getting richer and the hard-workers being bamboozled while getting poorer
Images of innocent babies lives being taken from them
Images of the lost falling deeper
What ever happened to the sounds of the city
What ever happened to the laughter that used to fill Jefferson
What ever happened to my city

Is it even worth it?

If I told you I love you would it matter?
If I told you I care would it even matter?
If I told you I ride for you even when you don’t ride for yourself would it even matter?
If I sang nothing even matters to you would it even matter?
If I went out my way to spend time with you or even give you the attention you want would it even matter?
If I proved myself and my loyalty to you would it even matter?
Does me taking the time to express this to you even matter?

Top 5 Reasons to date short hair women

As a proud member of  the BWAMU (black women asain males unite) community alot of the post are stupid objective questions. Do Asians males really like black women or do you like African women? Do you like skinny/thin women or big girls. Do you like light skin or dark skin? Do you prefer pretty face or pretty body?

STUPID ASS QUESTIONS because these are questions that 50 percent are gonna say yay and the other 50% says nay and where does that get you? Is your confidence any better? Instead of asking people who really dont matter in your life how they feel about people like you give reasons why you’re are great in your stature.  Soooo in being inspired but dumb ass questions I decided to start a new segment I like to call Top 5 Reasons.   Here, anything goes from strictly serious to super silly.  Just have fun with whatever you want to ask. So to start it off  here are my 5 top reasons to date short hair women:

 

1. Hair appointments are shorter and cheaper.

So instead of  $70+ and waiting for 3-5 hours you only have to pay $60 or less and wait an hour or 2 max!

2. Worry free hair pulling and carasses!

You never have to worry about messing up the weave or asking if it’s real! You ever tried to run yo fingers through ya girl head and she snatch her head back faster than an indian giver trying cuz she’s trying to protect her 100%Indian hair? Got whip and backlash didn’t you?!

3. When it’s time to throw them blows you aint gotta wait for her to put her hair up.

Admit it, men you get yourselves  in some pretty fucked up situations and us loving, overprotective females be willing to fight anybody for you. Well you can witness that ass whooping in less than 60 seconds cuz I don’t need to find a rubber band or help to tie my hair up or back. I’m ready!

4. When it’s time to hit the club/party up you ain’t gotta to worry about being held up or holding up the line at security because rat tooth combs aren’t allowed, we have no need for those! You dont have to wait for us to get readywe use the same hair stuff you use. let me get that brush and oil shine when you finished. And guess what we can prolly give you a line up right after we hit up our edges lol!

5. You got hair in the sink, clogging it up? I didn’t think so. You got hair in your food? It aint mines! and if it is you can’t taste it besides that better than having red,black or blonde dental floss in your soup!

What other reasons can you come up with?! lol

 

Take Time Tuesdays: Thankful for TheSingleTrio

I want to take this time to say how thankful I am for this blog and my partners. I’m thankful to have a place to say whatever thee fuck ever I want to say with no judgement but the exact oppsoite, SUPPORT! I love how we are all unique and different but have a certain like-mindedness. I love the openess. I love the raw emotions and honesty that each one of  the members gives. It is very rare to have people accept the way you feel and very rare for them to express their core feelings as well. I love the people who take the time out to read nad comment on our psot. Thank You! It is because we have a love of writing and a perfect understanding of life that we are here. Whether you are entertained or informed by us I am thankful but most all I am truly thankful for the other great writers of THESINGLETRIO that makes me feel like an individual that is NOT alone in this world. Thank You guys so much for this opportunity to press buttons and push boundaries!

Take Time to “Put yo pretty on'”

It’s take time Tuesday and today I want to to Take Time to put your Pretty on!

In the words of the late Sis. Ruth Marie Fields, “Wake Up and Put your Pretty on!”

Do you know what that means?

 

That means when you wake up in the morning put your best face on. it means take proper care of yourself until you feel beautiful. If it takes a little longer then get up a litle earlier.  It means you should put that little extra pressing on that new dress, wear those high heels with those nice tights. Wipe the crust out your eyes, perform neccessary facial and body care regimen. If you need an extra flip and curl do it. Fellas if your need to spruce up with that new cologne. Dab it son! Prune your facial hair and keep those waves flowing. Simply put everymorning may not be our best but if you wake up and take the time to put some care into your look you WILL look and feel better.

 It is ok and perfectly fine and sometimes very important to be a little extra in our attire/appearance if you need an extra boost in your confidence and and your spirits. That is something iIve been learning and dealing with ALOT lately. I never really paid attention to girly girl trends not a big weave, makeup, nails fan but I do understand it now. OK let me be clear I am not a fan of fake shit nad especially fake shit and prefer natural beauty but I do understand wanting to do a something special for yourself everynow and again. It is very important that we feel out best and to wake up and out our pretty on. Others people desrciption of pretty is just different from mine.  I’ve been cool with just  penciling in my eyebrows and lip gloss everyday but perhaps the next few days I’ll add heels to make work clothes and blush to my face. Maybe I’ll put a hot press to my curls  and line the eyes and lips. Fellas wake up and lay your outfits out for the week and iron them bad boys! I like seeing that extra crisp pants line. Do the complete body care treatment, exfoliate, wash, moisturize do skip straight to the lotion. Ladies who take hoe baths I’m talking to you too. Put you pretty on and let yo’ ass actually soak in some water with bubbles and bath salts or bath bombs then apply powder and lotions, maybe even glitter lotion?! Whatever tedious care and pampering you prefer, just do it! You deserve it!

 

I’m just saying there is something that I can do extra everyday to do look and feel my prettiest whether its giving myself a steam facial or a milk bath or a bright new color in my warddrobe. I’m not going to worry about what others may think or say because I know I feel my best and that is what truly matters. You can too. Dress for yourself and noone else! So good people this is the Golden Girl asking you ALL to take time to really take care of yourselves, your bodies and your minds. Take time to wake up and put your pretty on!

Why can’t LMN be my life?

Everyone has an image of what they believe a relationship should consist of. Wether it be friends, family or the television painting the picture for us. What happens when we began to realize that it’s fake. It wasn’t crafted out of “holiness” nor love. That the foundation was built upon lie on top of lies. When the person that is truly in love finds out that what they have been living for years is fake. What happens when someone who has never been in love is confused by what’s all out there? The posers, the honest ones, the ones looking for the convenience of what’s there for the moment. What happens when that image is damaged? When it is finally figured that life is no where near what you view on LMN? What happens when after your image of what love and relationships is has been distorted?

Things that we see in LMN it’s all good but that’s an Hollywood dream. How do you hold on to something that’s real but all you know is the “hollywood dream?” You want to move towards being that star in your own show. You don’t expect things to shatter around you nor be forced to look in the mirror at what was. You don’t expect to be thrust ed into humiliation nor forced to answer those God awful questions about what really happened. It’s your show things are supposed to go your way but that’s not how life works dear friend. It’s sad yet true and we are all forced to ask “Why can’t LMN be my life?”

So Whats Been Up?

Ok like deadass though, I know its been a while since I’ve set down and just ranted to you all about what I’ve been doing.  See I had been trying this new kick about sitting back and not saying too much about my personal life, not too mention I hadnt had the slightest urge to share what I had been enduring over the last month and some change.

So lets update you all, Last month I had came across I nice young lady..Lets call her YaYa…wait a minute. Let me back track for you all for on second. I was dealing with a chick 5yrs younger than I, nothing serious on my end. Just sex, could’ve been great sex… But she goes to school in KY, and I’m up in here in MI trying to get things and myself further right. So I let her go to be free for some other dick, and maybe some other relationship. Me and my anal side about dating more than 2 years younger is kind of what broke it off…not to mention alot of the age difference scenarios that showed it would not work out nah mean? In which case, it’ll be another blog behind it so I’ll fully clear the smoke on that soon.

Back to the “Yaya” chick, Kinda hood rattish right? Digress please, just alittle… She seemed cool, I dont normally try to jig with women who wear cartier frames and wear those sort of things known in our local urban detroiter hood fashion. I over looked it, tried something new. As I always do, She was cool beans. very receptive to me and who I am, which she claimed is what brought her and kept her in to me. Now after 2-3weeks of doing what us sexually driven creatures do, she came on the rag. Then reality kicked in, where she was alluded to I had her out of her element. Doing things she didnt noramally do, yet it felt great. Claiming I was knocking her walls down every time we sexed, I mean it was statistically great on paper. Yet in reality she was just saying that to find some sort of escape out of “this” before it got a chance to blossom any further, Which I’m no longer even mad at. Which I am used to it, What I am alil miffed about is why do some women like to geek or gas up some of our heads? Literal *Drake Hand*…Like again I have been the victim of getting my dick abused for amusement & Kicks. Oy vey,  I digress though…

On to the other women, I mangaged to have caught the attention of an older woman. Meaningless to say I feel that is an accomplishment in itself, just I’ve been wary on trying to get at her for a few reasons. 1.) I do not feel I am maximizing my chanc with her…For whatever reason I’ll retain for myself. 2.) I have a little more things to tighten up, before I try at tightening her up. 3.) I just simply wanna see how this will play itself out. Cant come at no older woman with no bullshit. They aint even with that.

Then there is Hodgy 25yr old woman, with child. Screams ready made family in my mind, though her thigh tatt is bossness. I’d do some things to all her tatt’s but that is my personal life out side the bullshit. I enjoy speaking with her as often as possible, just as of lately we have been very inconsistent. Rather it has been of my own doing or something, Fuck if I really know. I do like her though, her past and where she could be going. I’ll leave it at that…Moving along…

There was this one chick, named Taylor…I know she does not read this blog, If she did I still would not care one bit. She is very air headed…Naive. Easily influenced, like she does not get out much. So she is prone to random stupidity. It annoys the fuck out of me, now that I had the privi to talk to her without one of my sisters around. She is and will remain no one utterly important, she had a phat ass though…

There are other names I could put out there, I just have not felt like speaking of them. Let alone indepth of them, I’m just really feeling emotionally bankrupt. Like Ive said before just nod and keep it moving, and I am absolutely fine with that. Welp enough with my Drake shit…Love me…@ me or Dap me bro…

TO HELL WITH IT FRIDAY

Another Friday, more ish to say to hell with

To hell with my high sed rate…look it up
To hell with people not understanding you can’t change people. They have to change on their own
To hell with the devil holding me back…I know im a threat to you
To hell with this sign on my forehead. Please fellas get to know me before you inquire
To hell with this snow…I didn’t ask for you yet
To hell with the NBA…
To hell with bills…you guys never seem to stop
To hell with ya for pissing me off in some way, shape, or form

Domingo Populair

 

I know its been a while since anyone has seen me around again, Life’s been over and insecure for me lately.

 

To hell wit’ how life has been lately

To hell wit’ with 3rd verse 2nd try, you’ll catch that later…

To hell wit’ the woman who left me hanging…

To hell wit’ the type who shed lights in the dark, I feel right but wrong in my heart…

To hell wit’ playing your part…If you were mine…

Keep Fucking With Me

You thought you were slick huh sir
Thought that if you kept up the charades I wouldn’t notice the truth
What you must have forgotten is I am a detective sir
You thought if you used your friends as a cover I wouldn’t find out
Gas is high so I didn’t do like Mya and ride out on that ass
What I did do was connect those dots
Didn’t expect to see me standing there
Ya chick looks scared
She doesn’t have anything to worry about
The business I have to take care of is with you and you only
One of these days you shoulda known that your lies was going to catch up with your ass
So now what your pleading with me
I don’t think so
I told you day one if you fuck with me I will send you to your mama in a body bag
You didn’t believe me
So here we are you kept lying and fucking with my emotions
I plan on keeping my promise
So you gotta go
You think if you scare me with your threats or putting your hands on me I will back down
No that’s an even better reason to take you out the game
I don’t know who you messed with before but I sir do not take that shit
This is what happens when you keep fucking with me

I.R.D = interracial dating learn your acronyms!

 

 

I am all for interracial relationships and I really dont think it is a secret. I tend to favor Asian men but I am open to all, I see beauty all across the color board and it doesn’t mean I shut down every black man that comes my way. I am fully aware that no matter the race men are men. Many may think that a different race treats you better then another but I will repeat. Men are MEN! Now will be a good time to add,  it was a blasian guy that gave me HPV and after learning about my miscarriage, dipped faster than strawberries in some chocolate lol S/O to Mr. P.T  and happy belated b-day!  And you thought only black men do that didn’t you?!  OK enought of the silly let’s get serious.

 

Black men and white women: We say its cool but only 20% of  us mean it. I would like to be a part of that 20% but there are times an dcircumstances when I am not with it and here is why. I can appreciate mixed couples but the reason why people date outside of their race is the issue. I admit there are some black men who grew up in suburban areas and went to school in suburabans areas and feel more confortbale in those situtaions/ surroundings and you are excuse because it is your comfort zone and what you genuinely know but everyone else?  Take the shades off and look me in the eyes! I’m going in. Black men who date women this is why I get so upset at you because if you are not the aforementioned brother you take the  dating scene waayyyyyy above call and duty. I’ve heard men date white women because they treat them better, because black women, done them wrong. I’ve heard because whote women have money and bail you out of jail. I’ve heard dating white women for pretty kids and status and to make htemselves feel better knowing they can get a white girl. It really gets me when black men date women, ONLY cuz comeon you know that is wrong and racist and truly loks bad on your self esteem truthfully. I get upset because often times  black men treat the white women (and other rces) 10x better than the treat their own. Here is a story I’ve witness a year ago.

So at the bus stop this black man is with a white women and he goes up to a black girl sitting down and asks her to move so the white lady could sit down. ( WTF?) So the girl scoots down and then the  eguys dusts off where the girl wastakes off his jacket then lays his jacket down and helps his friend sit down. Come the fuck on. When have a black man ever did that for a black woman? If he did he’d still be dating that black women. The problem is when people change up the whole game for other races that they didn’t do for their own especially the way they talk to them. Men wanna call us all kinds of bitches and hoes  but calls Cindy baby, sweety, love, darling.  I’ve witnessed black men be so quick to raise their voice at other black females but then Cindy could be all up in they face and they are quiet like a mouse.  Please slap Cindy like you would Booquinisha is all I’m saying. Dont complain about being mistreated by your own race when you treated another races 10x better. Dont act  like another races of women is superior and expect respect. What really makes me upset is when peple get into interracial relationships to be seen. It’s like saying look at me I’m dating a white woman or an Asian man or Latina/o. At a recent dinner at Texas Roadhouse a black guy with a white girl walked past a group of people and he actually stopped and looked back to see who was looking. My mom and I was looking and watching from the sidelines like this N’gine (nigga) is really looking for a reaction, which the group of white men did look but it was quick and they kept right on moving.  It is upsetting when people date outside their races to have pretty kids or to make thier parents upset or to experiment different “flavors”.  I can understand us ladies liking  anime, (sailor moon and Pokemon whoop whoop!) and sum KPop but come on changing ya  name to Nakumi Satsuma, and raiding Korea markets, trying to learn Jorean, Chinese, Mandarin,  Japanese and cosplays fetishes,  just to be notcied or make yorself more appealing to Asian men. Nah dont’ do it. Overloading yourself on a particular culture is so not cool and borderline desperate. Again I understand if Chinatown was where you were raised and it is the community/culture you grew up acclimating to then its ok because it’s genuine and not forced. Interracial dating is only beautiful when it is natural and genuine on both partners. it beautiful to not limit ourselves to just one particular group and being able to expand our  borders. It’s beautiful when we can open our mind and adapt to new conditions but faking it and forcing it is not.  Do I still cringe when I see a black man with a nother race? Not so much because some times it very natural and love is clearly there and other times, those times when I cringe, I can tell the dating is only for show and tell and that’s so elementary. Thats my take on interracial relationship what’s yours?

 

Until next time Dueces!